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One Woman’s list of Femdom Principles

For a man like me, who craves to serve women and has been searching for guidance from a woman who enjoys the femdom lifestyle, it is pleasure to have arrived at this blog of an anonymous woman in a female-led marriage.

In her introduction, she so perfectly lists her Femdom principles, which seem so close to mine. She has inspired me to add pictures from my collection.

“My husband and I have been married for over 5 years. As we’ve gotten to know each other, our relationship has evolved and gone through several different phases. . Our relationship today is based on FemDom Principles:”

1. Submission to Female Authority

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2. Obedience Training

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3. Service to Mistress

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4. Female Body Worship

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5. Tease, Denial & Humiliation

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6. Male Chastity & Orgasm Control

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7. Corporal Discipline

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8. Strap-On Training’

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9. Feminization

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10. CuckoldingCuckolding

Advice about the importance of pegging from a woman in a female led marriage:

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Here is some advice from a woman in a Female-led marriage about training her man (the photos/clips are from my collection):

In a FemDom relationship… getting the strap-on is not an option.

Don’t let the challenges of the first few sessions deter you. He’ll resist and try to manipulate his way out of it. He’ll talk about how much it hurts and how uncomfortable if feels. He’ll scream like a little bitch the first few times. All of that’s very normal.

But just keep at it. Your goal is to make it a very normal part of his experience. Believe me, he’ll eventually get used to it.

After a while… 2-3 months of getting it pretty regularly… some pretty wonderful things will start to happen. His selfish, argumentative masculine edge will dissipate. He will become much more cooperative and attentive to your needs. His submissive side will come out and blossom. He will become much less concerned with his orgasms, and more focused on yours. His erogenous zone will slowly start to shift from the head of his penis to the opening to his asshole and his prostate gland.

More than 10,000 hits on Femdom Lifestyle

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The Many Aspects of Sexual Female Domination

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Pegging

Femdom male re-education

Femdom Corporal Punishment

CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

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The Many Aspects of Sexual Female Domination

Aspects of Femdom Femdom is all about putting the woman first; and the Femdom lifestyle now permeates every aspect of human relationships: from Social to Domestic to Sexual. Socially, women have gotten leadership positions over men in the workplace and government and domestically it is no secret that many marriages are female led. But it is the sexual aspect of femdom that in this society still seems most taboo.

How do you react to this photo? What do you think of the woman? What do you think of the men at her feet? Are you shocked (or maybe even disgusted) by the implications?
Although the picture implies a certain measure of BDSM, like the femdom lifestyle, it implies so much more. There is Goddess worship, humiliation, and devotion to woman… all aspects of the female dominant lifestyle.
Below is a list of some of the various aspects of sexual femdom and a brief description of each. Each item with a hyperlink will guide you to a more detailed photo/post on the subject (these will be added and updated as they become available). I am sure this is only a partial list of aspects of femdom- so please free to add or to comment on the ones below:
Goddess Worship:
This is the worship of a woman as a Goddess. It can be simply metaphorical or can truly be a religious experience (especially from the man’s point of view). The photo above comes close to representing this.
Orgasm Denial:
This is a form of ‘Discipline’ (the D in BDSM) where the woman denies her man permission to have an orgasm. This can be anywhere from a few minutes (during intense teasing and sexual stimulation), to days, weeks or months. This Discipline serves to establish the woman’s control over her man and often leads to extremely intense orgasms for her charge when she finally grants him permission.
Male Chastity:
This is an extreme form of orgasm denial that can be simply not allowing the man to have an orgasm (for a specific amount of time) to locking his penis in a cage sometimes called a ‘male chastity device’. Some devices simply prevent erections while other may have urethral ‘plugs’ or painful barbs.Male chastity can be used in many ways by the woman (this will be discussed later), but for the man it is a constant reminder that his manhood belongs to his woman.
Cuckolding:
In femdom, cuckolding is the subjugation of a woman’s sub-male to watching and/or knowing about her sexual encounters with other (usually well endowed) men- or women. For the sub-male this demonstrates to himself and to his woman his sexual inadequacy and is a form of sexual humiliation (see below). For the woman it is a form of both submission (to the well endowed man) and dominance… with a little mental sadism.
Pegging:
In femdom, pegging usually consists of the woman using a strap-on dildo in anal intercourse with her sub. For the woman, this is the ultimate in sexual control and power, and for the sub-male it is often the ultimate in sexual humiliation and submission.
Feminization / Cross-dressing:
This is the practice of having (often forcing) the man to dress and be made up like a woman. It is a form of sexual humiliation and sexual re-education (see below) that is most effective in men who have been misogynists or male chauvinists in their prior roles. It essentially forces the man to experience the sexual humiliation and degradation that he would have inflicted on the women in his life.
Sexual Humiliation:
This is a major aspect of femdom; and often one of the most erotic! It can span from feminization to pegging to cuckolding to corporal punishment and beyond…
It cuts deep into a man’s sexuality and masculinity, exposing him to a most intense intimacy with his woman. In many ways it is a process that eventually leads to the sexual re-education of the man. Even though many women might not realize it, men often find sexual humiliation an extremely erotic experience…
CBT (Cock and Ball Torture):
Although this is mainly a form of Sada-Masochism, it is often used in femdom. Often a woman might flick the man scrotum with her finger if she is unhappy with his erection… Sometimes she might use a small crop (sometimes called a penis whip) to ‘correct’ a man’s attitude, arousal or misbehavior.
Corporal Punishment:
Although often considered BDSM, this can be a very powerful tool in femdom to define the dominant female and the submissive male roles. There are many forms, including caning, paddling, whipping and spanking. In the picture above, each groveling male shows signs of having endured corporal punishment at the hand of their Goddess.
CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male):
The use of nudity as a sign of subservience of the male and clothing as a sign of privilege in the woman is a very effective way to define the Femdom relationship. There is much symbolism in this practice, but the bottom line is that it defines the male as a sex object while the dressed woman is now the ogler- an instant role reversal….
Sex Role Reeducation:
This is a rather nebulous aspect of femdom that often depends on the woman, the man and their relationship. It is the concept that most men in current society have been raised in male dominated sexual roles while the woman has been encouraged to be submissive. Re-education (for both parties) can use any of the above aspects of femdom to establish and re-enforce the new roles of Woman over man. It can also employ all aspects of BDSM- but especially the Discipline portion. Since femdom is usually a continuing relationship (as Miss Coquette has so eloquently reminded me), I believe this may be one of its most important tools to keep the relationship clear and exciting.

Financial Domination: This is the practice that ranges from men giving ‘tributes’ to a woman to a long standing relationship where the man supports the woman in the ‘lifestyle fit for his Princess’.

Femdom male re-education

 

When it comes to understanding what women want and need, it is certain that most men have no clue. This is especially true in our current male-centric society where women are still regarded as submissive to men and are expected to serve their man’s needs. In addition, it is still considered a taboo in our society for a man to take a submissive role in a heterosexual relationship.

What is your reaction at the pictures above? Does it seem natural? Would it be different if the roles were reversed? Do the men seem any less masculine because they are ‘serving’ their woman’s needs or worshiping her?

It is safe to say that even for the man who might be interested in the femdom lifestyle, there is a lot to learn… or perhaps unlearn… before he can truly fit into the lifestyle. Not only must he learn the particular whims and pleasures of his woman/Mistress, he must also be broken of the well ingrained concepts that most men have had instilled in them.

He has to be trained to adopt as an instinct that he is there to serve his Mistress. He has to understand what it is to cede control (especially sexual control) to his woman, and at the same time find fulfillment in her sexual gratification- even when he is denied his own.

Femdom training can take many different directions, depending on the woman’s prerogative. It can be mostly domestic, making the man do the house chores or whatever else his woman commands; but ultimately it is a sexual re-education.

Some of the potential methods of femdom training may include (but are certainly not limited to) corporal punishment, sexual rewards, orgasm denial, pegging, sexual humiliation and even male chastity.

Many of these have been discussed in other posts, but two tools of femdom training are particularly useful in femdom reeducation: the establishment of a teacher (woman)/ schoolboy relationship and teaching the man to enjoy taking a sexually submissive role.

The establishment of a ‘re-education’ school (or clinic, or institute) is a good way to introduce role-playing into the relationship- and introduce the man to the his new Teacher. Even if the man is older and more sexually experienced than the woman, he is still ignorant of how to behave in his new role and this immediately puts his Mistress/teacher in command. The woman might want to lay down the rules for her new pupil and back it up with a list of rewards and punishments depending on his progress.

The punishment can vary depending on the woman’s preference. The more strict might include corporal punishment, while the more demure woman might choose orgasm denial. Rewards should mostly have a sexual aspect, but designed to make it clear that the woman is now in charge of his sexuality. Rewards might include being allowed to masturbate in front of his Mistress or be allowed to pleasure his Mistress (any way she chooses).

The rest of the re-education curriculum can be left up to the woman’s imagination.

Finally, another important component of a man’s sexual reeducation should include experiencing the pleasure of ceding sexual control to his woman. For some women this might simply be denying orgasm for long periods (or even locking his manhood in a male chastity device) and then allowing him an orgasm under her conditions. But probably the most effective way to have him experience loss of control is by being taken by the woman with a dildo- preferably with a strap-on dildo . (This is called pegging and is further discussed here).

Readers are encouraged to add their own suggestions and or comments.

Sexual Humiliation:

 

One of the most pervasive passion that runs through all aspects of femdom is humiliation. There seems to be countless forms of humiliation in femdom, but the common thread involves breaking the man’s ingrained sexual ego. For this reason, unlike other forms of humiliation, the humiliation in female domination (whether it is social, domestic or sexual) has a strong undercurrent of sexuality.

Sometimes the humiliation may arise from directly making fun of the man’s penis size or questioning his sexual ability. Sometimes it arises when the woman questions his masculinity, and/or makes him dress up in women’s clothing as confirmation of his lack of manhood. Sometimes it may arise by demonstrating to the man how oversexed he is as the woman practices orgasm denial until he is begging for release. Sometimes it may arise from having to be spanked naked over the woman’s lap like a misbehaving schoolboy, or be made to assume a submissive and vulnerable position for a paddling (perhaps in front of a few women as in a couple of the pictures above). Sometimes it may come from having to kiss (and adore) the woman’s feet- as if this is the only thing he is good for; or having to walk around with a dog collar (or even a cock leash…). Sometimes it arises as women abuse the groveling naked man in public, or force him to masturbate while kneeling at their feet.

But probably the most humiliating practice in femdom (at least for me), is being taken by a woman’s strap-on dildo (also called pegging). Pegging is discussed in detail here. In addition to it being a reversal of sexual roles, it completely alters the man’s deeply ingrained ideal of his own masculinity- one where he is always in sexual control; and as he assumes the submissive position for his woman and feels her dildo invading him beyond his control, the humiliation is profound…

But the woman who might be worried that these acts are mean, must remember that the man undergoing these indignities often finds that the humiliation the woman caused him, arouses an inexplicable strong erotic feeling deep in his libido. It is a feeling like no other sexual feeling, one of extreme emotion and surrender: Feelings that men do not often feel, especially sexually. This is especially true with pegging and why it often results in very intense orgasm for the man.

Finally, when a man gets aroused at the prospect of getting spanked or paddled, it is not because he loves the pain- it is because of the sexual humiliation he must endure- especially if done in the right context.

I am not sure how humiliation works for the woman, whether dominant or submissive, so I welcome any comments from our readers…